For some reason, 22 sounds eons older than 21. My friend Eric pointed out that it’s because there are no more checkpoints after 21, except arguably 25, which is the age when you can rent a car. However, I will never rent a car, because I hate cars. So I’m out of milestones now.
“Living My Best Life”
I think that 21 was overall the best year of my life. The end of the year, April, was pretty bumpy, but we pushed through it with an optimistic outlook. I graduated university, got my first full-time job, moved into an apartment that isn’t student housing, traveled a lot, and reconnected with friends.
Jokingly, I told my mom that I was “living my best life”, but I do truly believe it. There are two true peaks that I can recall of my 21st year. One was about a week or two before Electric Forest and continued until roughly the week after. The second peak was right after I got my job and moved in to my apartment. Possibilities seemed endless and I seemed unstoppable.
There were also a lot more highlights throughout my 21st year than there have been in my life before, but part of me believes that might just be because they are fresh in my mind and up-to-date with my current priorities. For example, I met my lord and saviour Porter Robinson, generally got more invested in teaching myself music production, and a bunch of other events I mentioned in my 2018 reflection post.
22 Things I’ve Learned in 22 Years
- Your support network is crucial. Choose your friends wisely.
- Having an all-or-nothing mindset will tear you apart. It’s okay to compromise.
- Actually, you don’t have “a purpose”. You can only offer yourself as you are, and work toward traits you want to be able to offer.
- Really, it’s okay to say “no”. Really.
- You can believe that someone is innocent until proven guilty, as long as you don’t make up excuses for why they’re guilty after the verdict.
- Be grateful for what you have when you have it.
- Early to bed & early to rise actually does make you healthy, wealthy, and wise. And I love this routine.
- Keep telling your loved ones that you love them.
- No matter how awful the situation seems right now, you will eventually get out of it.
- Worrying doesn’t help anything.
- If you want to feel like a part of something, you can always start something. You can take initiative.
- Trust and communication really are the two most important elements in any relationship.
- Stepping into someone else’s shoes is completely different from lending them your old shoes.
- Time is your most valuable resource.
- Don’t be afraid to actually have a conversation. You can lose your sense of communication. And then you will regret it.
- TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY.
- Spaced repetition is important when learning if you want to actually retain what you’ve learned.
- Moderation is the key to absolutely everything.
- Learn to manage your emotions. And if you don’t know how to do that, ask for help.
- Fundamentals can be carried over into other aspects of life. Use this to your advantage.
- It’s great to have a variety of interests, but there is no stability, especially when your emotions become involved.
- Charles Kettering said, “A problem well-stated is a problem half-solved.” And he was right.
One Second Every Day
For the last five or so years, I’ve been trying to complete a full year of filming one second of video every single day. Unfortunately, something would always seem to pop up right before my birthday. My phone broke or I got a new one or I broke up with my boyfriend of the time (who was in nearly every clip).
This was the first year I’ve been able to successfully finish the video. Some of it is fairly boring, but hey, that’s my life. And I don’t mind it.
What Comes Next?
Unfortunately, now, everything seems a little less certain. This leads me to worry a lot — have I made the right choices? Am I happy here? What’s going to happen to my relationships? Will I lose everything I’ve worked so hard for?
And I’m scared. Really, really scared.
Some might believe 22 is too young to have an existential/and/or/mid-life crisis. I don’t know. Maybe they’re right. Although, I’ve been having these breakdowns about once a year since I was 14 or so; I was about due for another one.
Right now, it seems as though 22 will be my buffer year. I’ve always been kind of go-go-go, and it feels like I will be taking a breather for a while. I am absolutely fine with that.